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longer detain you with an addrefs of this nature: I cannot, however, conclude it without owning those great obligations which you have laid upon,
YOUR MOST OBEDIENT,
It's cure, with the story of Herod and Mariamne 171
Description of a grinning match at Cole's-hill 173
On the landed and trading interests
Description of a Jezebel; letter from Jack Modifh 175
Letter from Nathaniel Henrooft, a henpeckt husband 176
On Good-nature ; with the character of Eugenius
Description of a whistling match at Bath
Letter from Philarithmus on the conquests of Lewis XIV.180
- from one wko bad married against her father's con-
fent ; hiftory of Eginhart and Imma
Account of Nicholas Hart the sleeper
Defcription of a jilt by Charles Yellow
On the vanity of popular praise
On the duties of parents and children
Letter from Rebecca Nettletop, a girl of the loron 190
On lotteries, with a letter from George Gosling 191
On the affection of parents for their children
On the advantages of exercise and temperance
Letters from T. B. and Biddy Loveless
On the force of custom, with some rules for conversation 197
On the darger of exposing ourselves to temptation
A contraft between a wife and a misiress
On the mischiefs attending ambition in a prince 200
On the advantages of a religious education
On the advantages of birth with a suitable behaviour 202
On debauching of girls, with theurbappy state of baffards 203
Letters on the passion of love
The sentiments of Plato on prayer
On ibe deprared taste of the public in their diverfrons 208
Simonides, his fatire on women
On the tranfmigration of fouls
On mifapplication of talents
A fragment of Sappho, tranflated by Catullus, Boileau
An affecting Scene of diftrefs, &c. 242
N° 170. Friday, September 14, 1711.
In amore hæc omnia infunt vitia: injuriæ,
Bellum, pax rurfum— TER. Eun. A&t. 1.
All these inconveniencies are incident to love: Reproaches, jealoufies, quarrels, reconcilements, war, and then peace.
PON looking over the letters of my female correfpondents, I find feveral from women complaining of jealous hufbands, and at the fame time protefting their own innocence; and defiring my advice on this occafion. I fhall therefore take this fubject into my confideration; and the more willingly, because I find that the marquis of Hallifax, who, in his Advice to a Daughter, has inftructed a wife how to behave herself towards a falfe, an intemperate, a choleric, a fullen, a covetous, or a filly hufband, has not spoken one word of a jealous husband.
Jealoufy is that pain which a man feels from the apprehenfion that he is not equally beloved by the perfon whom he intirely loves. Now because our inward
paffions and inclinations can never make themselves vifible, it is impoffible for a jealous man to be thoroughly cured of his fufpicions. His thoughts hang at best in a ftate of doubtfulness and uncertainty; and are never capable of receiving any fatisfaction on the advantageous fide; fo that his inquiries are more fuccefsful when they discover nothing. His pleasure arifes from his difappointments, and his life is fpent in purfuit of a fecret that deftroys his happiness if he chance to find it.
An ardent love is always a ftrong ingredient in this paffion; for the fame affection which stirs up the jealous man's defires, and gives the party beloved fo beautiful a figure in his imagination, makes him believe fhe kindles the fame paffion in others, and appears as amiable to all beholders. And as jealoufy thus arifes from an extraordinary love, it is of fo delicate a nature, that it scorns to take up with any thing less than an equal return of love. Not the warmest expreflions of affection, the fofteft and moit tender hypocrify, are able to give any fatisfaction, where we are not perfuaded that the affection is real, and the fatisfaction mutual. For the jealous man wishes himfelf a kind of deity to the perfon he loves: he would be the only pleasure of her fenfes, the employment of her thoughts; and is angry at every thing the admires, or takes delight in, befides bimfelf.
Phædria's request to his mistress upon his leaving her for three days, is inimitably beautiful and natural.
Cum milite ifto præfens, abfens ut fies:
Dies nocefque me ames: me defideres : Me fomnies me expecles: de me cogites: Me fperes me te oblectes: mecum tota fis: Meus fac fis poftremò animus, quando ego fum tuus. TER, Eun. A&t. 1. Sc. 2. When you are in company with that foldier, behave you were abfent: but continue to love me by day and by night want me; dream of me; expect me; 66 think of me; wifh for me; delight in me: be wholly
with me in short, be my very foul, as I am yours."
The jealous man's disease is of fo malignant a nature, that it converts all he takes into its own nourishment.