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marks in the Continental, in opposition intimacy gave each one such perfect to the Anglo-Saxon, habits of conversa- insight into all the others' habits of tion. A Frenchman or an Italian will thought, tastes, and preferences, that talk to you of his feelings and plans and the conversation was like the celeprospects with an unreserve that is per- brated music of the Conservatoire in fectly unaccountable to you, who have Paris, a concert of perfectly chorded always felt that such things must be instruments taught by long habit of kept for the very innermost circle of harmonious intercourse to keep exact home privacy. But the Frenchman or time and tune together. Italian has from a child been brought " Real conversation presupposes inup to pass his family life in places of timate acquaintance. People must see public resort, in constant contact and each other often enough to wear off the intercommunion with other families; rough bark and outside rind of commonand the social and conversational in- places and conventionalities in which stinct has thus been daily strength- their real ideas are enwrapped, and give ened. Hence the reunions of these forth without reserve their innermost people have been characterized by a and best feelings. Now what is called sprightliness and vigor and spirit that a large party is the first and rudest form the Anglo-Saxon has in vain attempted of social intercourse. The most we can to seize and reproduce. English and say of it is, that it is better than nothAmerican conversazioni have very gen- ing. Men and women are crowded erally proved a failure, from the rooted, together like cattle in a pen. They frozen habit of reticence and reserve look at each other, they jostle each which

grows with our growth and other, exchange a few common bleatstrengthens with our strength. The ings, and eat together; and so the fact is, that the Anglo-Saxon race as a performance terminates. One may be race does not enjoy talking, and, except crushed evening after evening against in rare instances, does not talk well. A men or women, and learn very little daily convocation of people, without re- about them. You may decide that a freshments or any extraneous object but lady is good-tempered, when any amount the simple pleasure of seeing and talk- of trampling on the skirt of her new ing with each other, is a thing that can silk dress brings no cloud to her brow. scarcely be understood in English or But is it good temper, or only wanton American society. Social entertainment carelessness, which cares nothing for presupposes in the Anglo-Saxon mind waste ? You can see that man is not something to eat, and not only some- a gentleman who squares his back to thing, but a great deal. Enormous din- ladies at the supper-table, and devours ners or great suppers constitute the en- boned turkey and paté de fois gras, tertainment. Nobody seems to have while they vainly reach over and around formed the idea that the talking — the him for something, and that another simple exchange of the social feelings is a gentleman so far as to prefer the - is, of itself, the entertainment, and care of his weaker neighbors to the that being together is the pleasure. immediate indulgence of his own ap

“Madame Recamier for years had a petites ; but further than this you circle of friends who met every after- learn little. Sometimes, it is true, in noon in her salon, from four to six some secluded corner, two people of o'clock, for the simple and sole pleas- fine nervous system, undisturbed by ure of talking with each other. The the general confusion, may have a sovery first wits and men of letters and ciable half-hour, and really part feeling statesmen and savans were enrolled that they like each other better, and in it, and each brought to the enter- know more of each other than before. tainment some choice morceau which Yet these general gatherings have, he had laid aside from his own particu- after all, their value. They are not so lar field to add to the feast. The daily good as something better would be,


but they cannot be wholly dispensed try party, in fact, may be set down with. It is far better that Mrs. Bo- as a work of benevolence, and the gus should give an annual party, when money expended thereon fairly charged she take's down all her bedsteads and to the account of the great cause of throws open her whole house, than that peace and good-will on earth.” she should never see her friends and “ But don't you think,” said my wife, neighbors inside her doors at all. She " that, if the charge of providing the enmay feel that she has neither the taste tertainment were less laborious, these nor the talent for constant small re- gatherings could be more frequent ? unions. Such things, she may feel, re- You see, if a woman feels that she must quire a social tact which she has not. have five kinds of cake, and six kinds She would be utterly at a loss how of preserves, and even ice-cream and to conduct them. Each one would cost jellies in a region where no confectionher as much anxiety and thought as er comes in to abbreviate her labors, her annual gathering, and prove a fail- she will sit with closed doors, and do ure after all, whereas the annual dem- nothing towards the general exchange onstration can be put wholly into the of life, because she cannot do as much hands of the caterer, who comes in as Mrs. Smith or Mrs. Parsons. If the force, with flowers, silver, china, ser- idea of meeting together had some othvants, and, taking the house into his own er focal point than eating, I think there hands, gives her entertainment for her, would be more social feeling. It might leaving to her no responsibility but the be a musical reunion, where the various payment of the bills ; and if Mr. Bogus young people of a circle agreed to furdoes not quarrel with them, we know nish each a song or an instrumental no reason why any one else should; performance. It might be an imprompand I think Mrs. Bogus merits well of tu charade party, bringing out somethe republic, for doing what she can do thing of that taste in arrangement of towards the hospitalities of the season. costume, and capacity for dramatic efI'm sure I never cursed her in my fect, of which there is more latent in heart, even when her strong coffee has society than we think. It might be held mine eyes open till morning, and the reading of articles in prose and poher superlative lobster-salads have giv- etry furnished to a common paper or en me the very darkest views of hu- portfolio, which would awaken an abunman life that ever dyspepsia and east dance of interest and speculation on wind could engender. Mrs. Bogus is the authorship, or it might be dramatic the Eve who offers the apple; but, after readings and recitations. Any or all of all, I am the foolish Adam who take these pastimes might make an evening and eat what I know is going to hurt so entertaining that a simple cup of tea me, and I am too gallant to visit my and a plate of cake or biscuit would be sins on the head of my too obliging all the refreshment needed.” tempter. In country places in particular, “We may with advantage steal a leaf where little is going on and life is apt to now and then from some foreign book," stagnate, a good, large, generous party, said I. “In France and Italy, families which brings the whole neighborhood have their peculiar days set apart for into one house to have a jolly time, to the reception of friends at their own eat, drink, and be merry, is really quite houses. The whole house is put upon a work of love and mercy. People see a footing of hospitality and invitation, one another in their best clothes, and and the whole mind is given to receivthat is something ; the elders exchange ing the various friends. In the evenall manner of simple pleasantries and ing the salon is filled. The guests, civilities, and talk over their domestic coming from week to week, for years, affairs, while the young people flirt, in become in time friends; the resort has that wholesome manner which is one of the charm of a home circle ; there are the safest of youthful follies. A coun- certain faces that you are always sure

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to meet there. A lady once said to me ing, - the perfect homelike spirit in of a certain gentleman and lady whom which the guests settle themselves to she missed from her circle, ‘They have any employment of the hour that best been at our house every Wednesday suits them,- some to lively chat, some evening for twenty years.' It seems to dreamy, silent lounging, some to a to me that this frequency of meeting is game, others, in a distant apartment, the great secret of agreeable society. to music, and others still to a promeOne sees, in our American life, abun- nade along the terraces. dance of people who are everything that “ One is often in a state of mind is charming and cultivated, but one and nerves which indisposes for the never sees enough of them. One meets effort of active conversation ; one wishthem at some quiet reunion, passes a es to rest, to observe, to be amused delightful hour, thinks how charming without an effort; and a mansion which they are, and wishes one could see more opens wide its hospitable arms, and of them. But the pleasant meeting is offers itself to you as a sort of home, like the encounter of two ships in mid- where you may rest, and do just as the ocean : away we sail, each on his re- humor suits you, is a perfect godsend spective course, to see each other no at such times. You are at home there, more till the pleasant remembrance has your ways are understood, you can do died away. Yet were there some quiet, as you please, come early or late, be home-like resort where we might turn brilliant or dull, — you are always welin to renew from time to time the pleas

If you can do nothing for the ant intercourse, to continue the last social whole to-night, it matters not. conversation, and to compare anew our There are many more nights to come readings and our experiences, the pleas- in the future, and you are entertained ant hour of liking would ripen into a on trust, without a challenge. warm friendship.

“ I have one friend, - a man of ge“But in order that this may be made nius, subject to the ebbs and flows of possible and practicable, the utmost animal spirits which attend that organsimplicity of entertainment must pre- ization. Of general society he has a vail. In a French salon, all is, to the nervous horror. A regular dinner or last degree, informal. The bouilloire, evening party is to him a terror, an the French tea-kettle, is often tended by impossibility ; but there is a quiet parone of the gentlemen, who aids his fair lor where stands a much-worn old sofa, neighbors in the mysteries of tea-mak- and it is his delight to enter without ing. One nymph is always to be found knocking, and be found lying with halfat the table dispensing tea and talk; shut eyes on this friendly couch, while and a basket of simple biscuit and cakes, the family life goes on around him offered by another, is all the further re- without a question. Nobody is to mind past. The teacups and cake-basket are him, to tease him with inquiries or salua real addition to the scene, because tations. If he will, he breaks into the they cause a little lively social bustle, a stream of conversation, and sometimes, little chatter and motion, — always of rousing up from one of these dreamy advantage in breaking up stiffness, and trances, finds himself, ere he or they giving occasion for those graceful, airy know how, in the mood for free and nothings that answer so good a pur- friendly talk. People often wonder, pose in facilitating acquaintance. 'How do you catch So-and-so? He is

“Nothing can be more charming than so shy! I have invited and invited, and the description which Edmond About he never comes.' We never invite, gives, in his novel of ‘Tolla,' of the and he comes. We take no note of his reception evenings of an old noble coming or his going ; we do not startle Roman family,--the spirit of repose his entrance with acclamation, nor clog and quietude through all the apart- his departure with expostulation; it ments, — the ease of coming and go- is fully understood that with us he shall



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do just as he chooses ; and so he simply an early tea enjoyed in a sort of chooses to do much that we like. picnic style in the grounds about the

“ The sum of this whole doctrine of house. Such an entertainment enables society is, that we are to try the value one to receive a great many at a time, of all modes and forms of social enter without crowding, and, being in its tainment by their effect in producing re- very idea rustic and informal, can be al acquaintance and real friendship and arranged with very little expense or good-will. The first and rudest form trouble. With the addition of lanterns of seeking this is by a great promis- in the trees and a little music, this encuous party, which simply effects this, tertainment may be carried on far into – that people at least see each other the evening with a very pretty effect. : on the outside, and eat together. Next “As to dancing, I have this much to come all those various forms of reunion say of it. Either our houses must be in which the entertainment consists of all built over and made larger, or fesomething higher than staring and eat male crinolines must be made smaller, ing, — some exercise of the faculties of or dancing must continue as it now is, the guests in music, acting, recitation, the most absurd and ungraceful of all reading, etc.; and these are a great attempts at amusement. The effort to advance, because they show people execute round dances in the limits of what is in them, and thus lay a foun- modern houses, in the prevailing style dation for a more intelligent apprecia- of dress, can only lead to developments tion and acquaintance. These are the more startling than agreeable. Danbest substitute for the expense, show, cing in the open air, on the shaven and trouble of large parties. They are green of lawns, is a pretty and graceful in their nature more refining and intel- exercise, and there only can full sweep lectual. It is astonishing, when peo be allowed for the present feminine ple really put together, in some one toilet. club or association, all the different « The English breakfast is an institutalents for pleasing possessed by dif- tion growing in favor here, and rightferent persons, how clever a circle fully, too; for a party of fresh, good-namay be gathered - in the least promis- tured, well-dressed people, assembled ing neighborhood. A club of ladies in at breakfast on a summer morning, is one of our cities has had quite a bril- as nearly perfect a form of reunion as liant success. It is held every fort- can be devised. All are in full strength night at the house of the members, ac- from their night's rest; the hour is fresh cording to alphabetical sequence. The and lovely, and they are in condition to lady who receives has charge of ar- give each other the very cream of their ranging what the entertainment shall thoughts, the first keen sparkle of the be, - whether charade, tableau, read- uncorked nervous system. The only ing, recitation, or music; and the in- drawback is, that, in our busy Ameriterest is much increased by the individ- can life, the most desirable gentlemen ual taste shown in the choice of the often cannot spare their morning hours. diversion and the variety which thence Breakfast parties presuppose a condifollows.

tion of leisure ; but when they can be “In the summer time, in the country, compassed, they are perhaps the most open-air reunions are charming forms perfectly enjoyable of entertainments.” of social entertainment. Croquet par- “ Well,” said Marianne, “I begin to ties, which bring young people togeth- waver about my party. I don't know, er by daylight for a healthy exercise, after all, but the desire of paying off and end with a moderate share of the social debts prompted the idea; perevening, are a very desirable amuse- haps we might try some of the agreement. What are called 'lawn teas' able things suggested. But, dear me ! are finding great favor in England and there 's the baby. We 'll finish the talk some parts of our country. They are some other time."


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him. The more he toasted her, the

more uxorious he became, and she E went straight to the stable, and could not deny herself even this joy; saddled Black Dick.

but, besides, she had less of the pruBut, in the very act, his nature re- dent wife in her just then than of the volted. What, turn his back on her' weak, indulgent mother. Anything the moment he had got hold of her rather than check his love: she was money, to take to the other. He could greedy of it. not do it.

At last, however, she said to hin, He went back to her room, and came “Sweetheart, I shall go to bed; for, I so suddenly that he caught her cry- see, if I stay longer, I shall lead thee ing. He asked her what was the mat- into a debauch. Be good now ; drink ter.

no more when I am gone. Else I 'll “ Nothing," said she, with a sigh: say thou lovest thy bottle more than “only a woman's foolish misgivings. I thy wife." was afraid perhaps you would not come He promised faithfully. But, when back. Forgive me.”

she was gone, modified his pledge by “No fear of that,” said he. “How- drinking just one bumper to her health, ever, I have taken a resolve not to go which bumper let in another; and, to-day. If I go to-morrow, I shall be when at last he retired to rest, he was just in time; and Dick wants a good in that state of mental confusion whereday's rest."

in the limbs appear to have a memory Mrs. Gaunt said nothing; but her independent of the mind. expressive face was triumphant.

In this condition do some men's Griffith and she took a walk together; hands wind up their watches, the mind and he, who used to be the more genial taking no appreciable part in the cereof the two, was dull, and she full of ani- mony. mation.

By some such act of what physicians This whole day she laid herself out call “organic memory,” Griffith's feet to bewitch her husband, and put him in carried him to the chamber he had slept high spirits.

in a thousand times, and not into the It was up-hill work ; but when such one Mrs. Rider had taken him to the a woman sets herself in earnest to de- night before. light a man, she reads our sex a lesson The next morning he came down in the art, that shows us we are all ba- rather late for him, and found himself bies at it.

treated with a great access of respect However, it was at supper she finally by the servants. conquered.

His position was no longer doubtful; Here the lights, her beauty set off he was the master of the house. with art, her deepening eyes, her satin

Mrs. Gaunt followed in due course, skin, her happy excitement, her wit and and sat at breakfast with him, looking tenderness, and joyous sprightliness, young and blooming as Hebe, and her enveloped Griffith in an atmosphere of eye never off him long. delight, and drove everything out of his She had lived temperately, and had head but herself; and with this, if the not yet passed the age when happiness truth must be told, the sparkling wines can restore a woman's beauty and brightco-operated

ness in a single day. Griffith plied the bottle a little too As for him, he was like a man in a freely. But Mrs. Gaunt, on this one heavenly dream : he floated in the past occasion, had not the heart to check and the present: the recent and the


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