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TO THE RIGHT HONOURABLE
HENRY BOYLE, ESQ;
A S the profest design of this work is to entertain
its readers in general, without giving offence to any particular person, it would be difficult to find out fo proper a patron for it as yourself, there being none whose merit is more universally acknowledged by all parties, and who has made himself more friends, and fewer enemies. Your great abilities, and unquestioned integrity, in those high employments which you have passed through, would not have been able to have raised you this general approbation, had they not been accompanied with that moderation in an high fortune, and that affability of manners, which are so conspicuous through all parts of your life.' Your aversion to any oftentatious arts of setting to show those great services which you have done the public, has not likewise a little contributed to that universal acknowledgment which is paid you by your country.
The confideration of this part of your character, is that which hinders me from enlarging on those ex
traordinary talents, which have given you so great a figure in the British Senate, as well as in that elegance and politeness which appear in your more retired conversation. I should be unpardonable, if, after what I have said, I shou!d longer detain you with an address of this nature : I cannot, however, conclude it without owning those greater obligations which you have laid upon, ,
Your moft obedient,
Τ Η Ε
S P E C T A T O R.
N° 170. FRIDAY, SEPT. 14, 1711.
and the satisfaction mutual. For the jealous
man wishes himself a kind of deity to the person In amore bæc omnia infuns vitia : injuria,
he loves : He would be the only pleasure of her Suspiciones, inimicitiæ, inducia,
senses, the employment of her thoughts; and is Ballum, pax rurfum Ter. Eun. Act. 1. Se. 1. angry at every thing the admires, or takes deAll these inconveniencies are incident to love: light in, besides himself.
Phædria's request to his mistress upon his leavreproaches, jealousies, quarrels, reconcile
ing her for three days, is inimitably beautiful and ments, war, and then peace.
natural. TPON looking over the letters of my female cum milite isto prasens, absens ut fies : correspondents, I find several from women complaining of jealous husbands, and Me fomnies : me expectes: de me cogites :
Dies noétesque, me ames: me desideres : at the same time protesting their own innocence; Me speres : me te oblettes : mecum tota fis: and defiring my advice on this occasion. I shall Meus fac fis poftremò animus, quando ego sum tuus, therefore take this subject into my confideration ;
Ter. Eun. A&t. I. Sc. 2. and the more willingly, because I find that the Marquis of Halifax, who, in his Advice to a
" When you are in company with that soldier, Daughter, has instructed a wife bow to behave “ behave as if you were absent: But continue herself towards a false, an intemperate, a cho
“ to love me by day and by night: Want me: leric, a fullen, a covetous, or a filly husband,
“ dream of me; expect me; think of me; with
“ for me; delight in me : Be wholly with me : has not spoken one word of a jealous husband. Jealousy is that pain which a man feels from the
“ In short, be my very soul, as I am your's.” apprehenfion that be is not equally beloved by the per The jealous man's disease is of fo malignant a son wbom be intirely loves. Now because our in- nature, that it converts all he takes into its own ward passions and inclinations can never make nourishment. A cool behaviour fets him on the themselves visible, it is impoffible for a jealous rack, and is interpreted as an instance of averfion man to be thoroughly cured of his suspicions, or indifference; a fond one raises his suspicions, His thoughts hang at best in a state of doubtful- and looks too much like dissimulation and artis ness and uncertainty; and are never capable office, If the person he loves be chearful, her receiving any satisfaction on the advantageous thoughts must be employed on another; and if fide; so that his inquiries are most successful sad, he is certainly thinking on himself. in when they discover nothing. His pleasure arises short, there is no word or gesture so insignificant, from his disappointments, and his life is spent in but it gives him new hints, feeds his suspicions, pursuit of a fecret that destroys his happiness if and furnishes him with fresh matters of discovea he chance to find it.
ry: So that if we consider the effects of this parAn ardent love is always a ftrong ingredient fion, one would rather think it proceeded from in this passion; for the same affection which Atirs an inveterate hatred, than an excessive love; for up the jealous man's defires, and gives the party certainly none can meet with more disquietude beloved so beautiful a figure in his imagination, and uneasiness than a suspected wife, if we ex. makes him believe the kindles the same paffion cept the jealous husband. in others, and appears as ainiable to all hehold. But the great unhappiness of this passion is, ers. And as jealousy thus arises from an ex that it naturally tends to alienate the affe&ion traordinary love, it is of fo delicate a nature, which it is so solicitous to ingrofs; and that for that it fcorns to take up with any thing less than these two reasons, because it lays tco great a an equal return of love. Not the warmest ex constraint on the words and actions of the surpressions of affection, the softest and most tender pected person, and at the same time thews you hypocrisy, are able to give any satisfaction, where have no honourable opinion of her; both of we are not persuaded that the affection is real, which are strong motives to averfion,
Nor is this the worst effect of jealousy; for it felves, and therefore mistake all outward Mows often draws after it a more fatal train of confe- and appearances for hypocrisy in others; so that quences, and makes the person you suspect guilty I believe no men see less of the truth and reality of the very crimes you are so much afraid of. of things, than these great refiners upon inci. It is very natural for such who are treated ill and dents, who are so wonderfully subtle and overupbraided falsely, to find out an intimate friend wife in their conceptions. that will hear their complaints, condole their Now what these men fancy they know of wosufferings, and endeavour to sooth and assuage men by reflection, your lewd and vicious men their secret resentments. Besides, jealousy puts believe they have learned by experience. They a woman often in mind of an ill thing that she have seen the poor husband so misled -by tricks would not otherwise perhaps have thought of, and artifices, and in the midst of his inquiries so and fills her imagination with such an unlucky loft and bewildered in a crooked intrigue, thať idea, as in time grows familiar, excites defire, they ftill suspect an under. plot in every female and loses all the name and horror which might action; and especially when they see any resemat first attend it. Nor is it a wonder if she who blance in the behaviour of two persons, are ape fuffers wrorgfully in a man's opinion of her, and to fancy it proceeds from the same defign in has therefore nothing to forfeit in his esteem, re both. These men therefore bear hard upon the solves to give him reason for his suspicions, and suspected party, pursue her close through all her to enjoy the pleasure of the crime, since she must turnings and windings, and are too well acundergo the ignominy. Sứch probably were the quainted with the chace, to be fung off by arly confiderations that directed the wife man in his fàlte Reps or doubles: Besides, their acquaintadvice to husbands; Be not jealcus over the wife of ance and conversation has lain wholly among thy bosom, and teach ber not an evil lejon against tby- the vicious part of women-kind, and therefore self. Ecclus.
it is no wonder they censure all alike, and look And here, among the other torments which upon the whole sex as a species of impostors. this paffion produces, we may usually observe But if, notwithstanding their private experience, that none are greater mourners than jealous men, they can get over these prejudices, and entertain when the person who provoked their jealousy is a favourable opinion of some women; yet their 'taken from them. Then it is that their love own loose desires will stir up new suspicions from breaks out furiously, and throws off all the mix- another side, and make them believe all men fub. tures of suspicion which choaked and smothered ject to the same inclinations with themselves. it before. The beautiful parts of the character Whether these or other motives are most prerise uppermost in the jealous huthand's memory, dominant, we learn from the modern histories and upbraid him with the ill usage of fo divine a of America, as well as from our own experience crcature as was once in his poffesion; whilft all in this part of the world, that jealousy is no the little imperfections, that were before so un northern paffion, but rages most in those natio : easy to him, wear off from his remembrance, and ons that lie nearest the influence of the sun. It Thew themselves no more.
is a misfortune for a woman to be born between We may fee by what has been said, that jea- the tropicks; for there lie the hottest regions of lousy takes the deepest root in men of amorous jealousy, which as you come northward coels all dispositions ; and of these we may find three kinds along with the climate, until you scarce meet who are most over-run with it.
with any thing like it in the polar circle. Our The first are those who are conscicus to them. own nation is very temperately situated in this Yelves of any infirmity, whether it be weakness, respect; and if we meet with some few disordered old age, deformity, ignorance, or the like. These with the violence of this passion, they are not men are so well acquainted with the unamiable the proper growth of our country, but are many part of themselves, that they have not the con. degrees nearer the fun in their constitutions than fidence to think they are really beloved; and are in their climate. so distrustful of their own merits, that all fond After this frightful account of jealousy, and ness towards them puts them out of countenance, the persons who are most subject to it, it will and looks like a jeft upon their persons. They be but fair to thew by what means the passion grow suspicious on their first looking in a glass, may be best allayed, and those who are possessed and are ftung with jealousy at the sight of a withit fer at ease. Other faults indeed are not wrinkle. A handsome fellow immediately alarms under the wife's jurisdiction, and mould, if pofthem, and every thing that looks young or gay fible, escape her observation; but jealousy cails turns their thoughts upon their wives.
upon her particularly for its cure, and deserves A fecond sort of men, who are inoft liable to all her art and application in the attempt: Bethis passion, are those of cunning, wary, and fides, she has this for her encouragement, that diftruitful tempers. It is a fault very juftly her cradeavours will be always pleasing, and that found in histories composed by politicians, that she will still find the affection of her husband rifthey leave nothing to chance or humour, but are ing towards her in proportion as his doubts and still for deriving every action from some plot or fufpicions vanish; for, as we have seen all along, contrivance, for drawing up a perpetual icheme there is so greai a mixture of love in jealousy, as of causes and events, and preserving a constant is weil worth the reparating. But this shall be correspondence between the camp and the coun the subject of another paper.
L cil table. And thus it happens in the affairs of love with men of too refined a thought. They put a construction on a look, and find out a design in a smile; they give new senses and significations to words and actions, and are ever tormenting themselves with fancies of their own Taising. They generally act in a disguise them