Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to GrowSimon and Schuster, 2010年5月8日 - 450 頁 The classic New York Times bestseller about the many forms of loss we experience throughout our lives, and the necessity of letting go. In Necessary Losses, Judith Viorst turns her considerable talents to a serious and far-reaching subject: how we grow and change through the losses that are a certain and necessary part of life. She argues persuasively that through the loss of our mothers’ protection, the loss of the impossible expectations we bring to relationships, the loss of our younger selves, and the loss of our loved ones through separation and death, we gain deeper perspective, true maturity, and fuller wisdom about life. She has written a book that is both life-affirming and life-changing. Drawing on psychoanalysis, literature, and personal experience, Necessary Losses is a philosophy for understanding and accepting a universal human experience. “One of the most sensitive and comprehensive books about the human condition I have read in a long time.” —Harold S. Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People “Viorst has synthesized a vast amount of research into a very readable and generous whole.” —The New York Times Book Review |
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第 21 頁
... able to outwardly stand alone and to in- wardly feel ourselves to be distinct . There are losses we'll have to sustain , though they may be balanced by our gains , as we move away from the body and being of our mother . But if our ...
... able to outwardly stand alone and to in- wardly feel ourselves to be distinct . There are losses we'll have to sustain , though they may be balanced by our gains , as we move away from the body and being of our mother . But if our ...
第 31 頁
... able , that love is capricious , that human attachment is a perilous investment and that love should be hoarded for the self in the service of survival . " The cost of separation is often high . Now of course there will be separations ...
... able , that love is capricious , that human attachment is a perilous investment and that love should be hoarded for the self in the service of survival . " The cost of separation is often high . Now of course there will be separations ...
第 39 頁
... able to get whatever I want without putting out any effort for it . . . . I have never lived without all this stuff being there in the background . I don't know if I can . " Living with golden fantasies of an endlessly nurtured infancy ...
... able to get whatever I want without putting out any effort for it . . . . I have never lived without all this stuff being there in the background . I don't know if I can . " Living with golden fantasies of an endlessly nurtured infancy ...
第 40 頁
... able to forward our development . " To merge in order to reemerge , " writes psycho- analyst Gilbert Rose , " may be part of the fundamental process of psychological growth . . . . " In an intriguing book called The Search for Oneness ...
... able to forward our development . " To merge in order to reemerge , " writes psycho- analyst Gilbert Rose , " may be part of the fundamental process of psychological growth . . . . " In an intriguing book called The Search for Oneness ...
第 46 頁
... able to make it out here on my own . We are feeling : Help ! On the other hand , we don't want help . Or rather , we both want it and don't want it . And , besieged by contradictions , we hold tight and push away , we follow and flee ...
... able to make it out here on my own . We are feeling : Help ! On the other hand , we don't want help . Or rather , we both want it and don't want it . And , besieged by contradictions , we hold tight and push away , we follow and flee ...
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Lessons in Love | 66 |
THE FORBIDDEN AND THE IMPOSSIBLE | 81 |
Passionate Triangles | 100 |
Anatomy and Destiny | 115 |
Good as Guilt | 130 |
Saving the Children | 205 |
Family Feelings | 223 |
Love and Mourning | 237 |
Shifting Images | 265 |
Grow Old I Grow Old | 284 |
The ABC of Dying | 305 |
Reconnections | 325 |
BIBLIOGRAPHY | 413 |
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第 396 頁 - All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits, and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages. At first, the infant, Mewling and puking in the nurse's arms; And then, the whining school-boy, with his satchel, And shining morning face, creeping like snail Unwillingly to school: And then, the lover; Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad Made to his mistress...
第 86 頁 - And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering: but unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect.
第 396 頁 - With spectacles on nose, and pouch on side ; His youthful hose, well sav'd, a world too wide For his shrunk shank, and his big manly voice, Turning again toward childish treble, pipes And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all, That ends this strange eventful history, Is second childishness, and mere oblivion ; Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans every thing.
第 364 頁 - The phases and life tasks, defined elsewhere in this dictionary, are trust versus mistrust, autonomy versus shame and doubt, initiative versus guilt, industry versus inferiority, identity versus role confusion, intimacy versus isolation, generativity versus stagnation, and integrity versus despair.
第 411 頁 - It's not that I'm afraid to die. I just don't want to be there when it happens.
第 145 頁 - Nothing I cared, in the lamb white days, that time would take me Up to the swallow thronged loft by the shadow of my hand, In the moon that is always rising. Nor that riding to sleep I should hear him fly with the high fields And wake to the farm forever fled from the childless land.
第 396 頁 - With eyes severe and beard of formal cut, Full of wise saws and modern instances; And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts Into the lean and...
第 396 頁 - The sixth age shifts Into the lean and slipper'd pantaloon, With spectacles on nose and pouch on side, His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide For his shrunk shank ; and his big manly voice, Turning again toward childish treble, pipes And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all, That ends this strange eventful history, Is second childishness and mere oblivion, Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.